Yesterday I outed myself as “woo” to my new colleagues, and you know what? They didn’t bat an eye. One wants to have coffee to learn more. Another wants one of my services.
With Pride Month in full swing, I’m reminded of the closets where I used to hide, in so many ways.
Back in the early 1990s, when I entered the workforce, I felt I needed to hide most of who I was. Most tragically, I pretended my beloved was my roommate. That’s what we did back then (in that town anyway).
I also hid my spiritual bent, my tender underbelly, my writerly aspirations. Interacting that way was like trying to fly with one wing.
What a relief, nearly 30 years later, to find that having a wife instead of a husband is a nonissue for everyone in my ever-widening circle. And to be able to talk about transgender loved ones as well.
And what joy to feel appreciated for all of who I am.
Where are you with that? Do you feel safe to bring all of you to your endeavors? It’s an energizing proposition. One I wouldn’t have expected, at many points in my life.
What would happen if we all came out as … ourselves? If we let our sweet inner weird kids come out and play?
Long ago a counselor told me something about myself that made me cry. He spoke of a Persian proverb that goes something like: “If you have two loaves of bread, you must sell one and buy a flower.” He said it meant that we need both bread for the body, and a flower for the soul.
He said, “You are our flower.”
Which still makes me tear up.
Great piece Shawndra. Makes me happy! Yeah—what if we all just came out as ourselves!?
I am often afraid to state out of the blue or even answer that I have a disability, a mental illness, a sexuality, or currancy, because they are such tough subjects. Though I am never afraid to answer who I truly am. I connect passionately with nature and like to identify with that connection, yet there is no true answer to who I truly am. In that sense who’s to say I have anything or do we truly know anything?
*I meant tp say when I investigate without any preconceived ideas I find no answer.